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“Get ready to school” Charu was shouting at the top of her voice. Her son, Abhay. Didn’t seem to listen. Abhay was slowly wearing his shoes. The school bus will leave in 5 minutes and he hadn’t packed his lunch bag.
Charu packed it for him. She was annoyed. Abhay was 8 years old. He should have learned to pack all his things by now. She didn’t want to cover his back.
Whenever, she complained to her husband, he said that when he grew up things will be alright. Charu didn’t feel so.
When she was young, she and her brother used to do all their daily routine by themselves. Their mother just packed their lunch boxes. This was bothering her for many days.
She was confused. She tried putting charts for him. Timers with alarms, nothing seemed to give consistent results.
Abhay seemed lazy and irresponsible. A few days before, he was fine.. He did at least a few tasks in a fast pace. For the last few days, things are worse.
That day she was browsing the TV channels. A film named “Boss alias Bhaskaran” one of the south Indian romantic comedy movie was on air. She started watching it.
One of her favorite scene arrived. The Hero tries his hand to impress his girl in many ways. When he is unable to she speaks to the girl directly and says, “I have tried to impress you in many ways. But I am not able to. Please let me know how I can impress you that so can fall in love with me”. The girl smiles and she leaves.
A thought occurred in Charu’s mind. She was waiting for Abhay to reach home after school. The evening routine was done.
He did his home works, they had their dinner and it was time for Abhay to sleep. Charu went with him. She spoke to him casually about school and her day.
Slowly she told him, “Abhay morning I felt bad at yelling at you. I am sorry. But why are you getting ready to school very slowly these days? Don’t you like your school?”
Abhay replied, “No mom, I love my school”. Charu questioned, “Then, why are you getting ready so slowly? Abhay’s face saddened,” I don’t know mom, I will try to do things quickly”.
Charu felt satisfied, but she felt may be, there is something more to it, so, she said something different. “See Abhay, I want you to get ready to school on time. I am sure you also want the same. You don’t want to eat your breakfast in a hurry right, so tell me what I should do help to make you ready to school soon”.
Abhay looked back and said to her,” Mom, when I am in the restroom for potty time, please don’t yell from outside”.
Charu was shocked. She didn’t expect this reply. She remembered, yes, whenever he goes to the potty, he takes a long time, so she yells at him from outside to come out fast.
“Yes, Abhay what happens when I yell?” Abhay replied innocently, “When you yell my potty time is disturbed. I am not relaxed. If I am not done, I go to school and it is difficult to potty in break and my stomach pains all day”.
Charu queried slowly,” If I don’t shout then what happens?”. “Then it is peace time for me. Once I am done with my potty routine, I am relaxed and I can be free for the whole day”.
Charu felt very bad. She hadn’t thought in her wildest dreams that she was responsible for her son’s troubles. She said sorry to him and promised him test she will never shout at his potty time.
Next day she planned fiber food in his diet, so that he need not suffer from a constipation problem and Abhay was happy to get ready to school on time.
Charu decided whenever she has a problem, she will speak to the concerned person her son, than to wild guess things. She started practicing the Golden rule “Parenting is not always to tell, but also to listen to your kids”
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